Tip one: read the baby's heart parents A: One weekend, I took her shopping. Spirits are high, the daughter was upset temper. I coax side, the side to persuade, how to not work. I am anxious and ready to pick up the child to walk out. I crouch down in a moment did he realize: the original crouch down and looked from the child's perspective, see the colorful merchandise, but the people dangling legs! No wonder the child was angry, and I feel not the same as the original. I suddenly realized that, sometimes wayward child temper, has his reasons, we need to understand the children, read the child's heart, standing on the child's point of view.
Counselor Comments: The child was disobedient, speaking the truth do not accept adult, often because adults do not understand "Villains" in mind. If the position from the child, the child's perspective with the world, experience life with a heart of a child, the child's heart can be interlinked with us. Once we understand the child's heart, when children in the discipline will be more successful and less mistakes.
Tip two: do not give your baby to self-willed as an opportunity to blackmail their parents
Parents B: I've seen the former Soviet Union Shura childhood hero story. Once he have to eat before a meal to eat after the soup powder, father and mother not only did not agree, and did not coax him, left the house Shura himself. He cried for a while, but not echo, and consciously dull things to play with the wood yard. Shura wayward each subsequent crying, Mom and Dad do not give him or give him when the "audience", and afterwards give him a reason. In this way, and soon cured the Shura wayward crying problems. We do this to children, no child was the trouble. So, my personal experience is: the best bitter at first open heart, do not give children, parents, as preventive measures, like Shula.
Counselor Comments: The parents of the sentiment is justified, as a character, is very headstrong acquired factors. You are not just a crying child, relented, and on obedience? Wait until a child master the self-willed adults crying this blackmail "magic weapon", and go on endlessly vicious when thinking about solving a very difficult. Children will be very keen to seize the opportunity to learn to influence their parents, and even threatened parents. Therefore, we must treat a child from the very early attention to the attitude and the way children learn not to threaten parents with the opportunity to wayward.
Tip three: a reasonable way to meet the reasonable needs of the baby
Parents C: I think, in due course to meet the child's reasonable demands, but also preventive child was a wrong way. For example, the children did not see you one day, and want to tell you something intimate, what makes you a story, this is a reasonable request. Why do you have to wait for him wailed from the patience to re-commit to meet him? When my children first entered kindergarten, I adhere to this principle, to send their children when the children ranging from trouble, I put the child in his arms, embraced and kissed some, to meet his family and skin feel the need, and then must no longer accommodate. Children ran into the nursery always happily, never want to leave her mother and capricious because the screw, when committed.
Counselor Comments: Yes, children are often capricious needs to win some kind of satisfaction. Wise approach is reasonable and rational way to meet the needs of children; other child was losing her temper again promised the children's request, is the most foolish. Of course, to meet the needs of children must pay attention to conditions for meeting the needs can not or should not have to adhere to their principles, without compromise.
Tip Four: Give your baby the opportunity to create a collective life
Parents D: time, I just bought a child with an automatic tank when playing outside, neighbors and children exchange a few children want to play. Children do not want to, we hurried to persuade him to give the children to play for a while, but he would not listen, and our willful row. Other children continued playing their game, very happy. My child is not an argument, do not trouble, quietly watching them, and finally had to "sum", and to exchange toys to play with. As a result, I feel that the problems preventing wayward children, it is best to play with children and companions. Since then, I think a lot of ways for children to create opportunities for group activities.
Counselor Comments: self-centered willfulness is a product of collective activity is the best way to break the self-centered. Because of its norms of collective activity, to comply with collective norms is a prerequisite to participate in group activities. The child's nature is not like the loneliness, so, let the children go to the partners to the group to go, is indeed a visionary response.
Tip Five: When wayward child ignored
Parents E: When my child was two years old, often wayward nonsense, I scold him just as he praised as the more exciting the more he snapped. One day he was wayward prank, just my hands are busy with one thing, did not attend to him. A few minutes later, so I'm busy too, the child has been quietly playing with her next. This accidental discovery, I found a secret deal with unruly children, that is nonsense sometimes tantrums, I did not see the whole as a moment to calm the.
Counselor Comments: The child has a strong desire in adults with attention. Sometimes the children nonsense, so much wayward as it is to attract the attention of adults. And then once scolded the child to give criticism, just to meet the wishes of the child is concerned, so the children learned to use self-willed to cause concern in adults, therefore, to ignore it is desirable response. The child is terminated when the wayward behavior of attention again, so put the needs of children and adults with attention to good behavior established a temporary nervous connection, which also inhibited the wayward behavior.
Tip six: the timely transfer of the baby's attention
Parents F: child's attention can easily be attracted to other areas, we will seize the opportunity to divert attention to avoid using the child's self-willed. For example, the child was crying, I suddenly come up with a new thing to himself; "Ah! This thing is strange." Or pretending to be surprised, said: "Look! The street is that large vehicles installed with what? ", or say" go, go outside. "passage of time, the child will forget the just thing.
Counselor Comments: The people's mentality is determined by the attention, attention shift, the mentality will change. Therefore, the transfer note is correct defects of the possible ways wayward children. Trying to transfer the child's attention, do not need to Hong Quan, the child unconsciously twist will dilute the strength to eliminate wayward problems.